Becoming a surrogate is a big decision. You might feel like you don’t know enough about it to even make the decision yet. Besides being a way to make great money while staying at home with your own kiddos, what other things should you consider?
If you are asking yourself the question: “Should I become a surrogate?”, here are five things to consider.
- You don’t mind being pregnant – maybe you even enjoy it. Did you have an easy pregnancy without complications? This makes you an ideal candidate. Doctors will review your former pregnancy and delivery history before approving you to be a surrogate.
- You meet the other qualifications required like BMI, no history of miscarriages, your age is between 21 and 41 and you have already had your own child.
- You have a desire to help others. By having the right motivation to bless another family, the surrogacy experience will be rewarding for you. Because the baby is not biologically yours, you will be excited about the moment you get to give the baby back to its intended parents. Many surrogates and intended parents build a special bond during the surrogacy process and continue their relationship into the future.
- ou are ready to commit the time and energy to becoming a surrogate. You will need to take hormones, attend doctor appointments at the IVF clinic and with your OB-GYN, do Zoom calls with the intended parents, etc. If you have realistic expectations about the commitment and even the timeframe (surrogacy can take 1-2 years from start to finish), you will be better prepared to make the decision.
- The major people in your life support you in this decision to become a surrogate. You have a good support team, people who will be there for you when you need it. It is sometimes necessary to be driven to and from appointments; you might need help giving yourself the injections, not to mention the emotional support you will need while you’re pregnant, etc.
Another helpful way to decide if being a surrogate is the right choice for you is by talking to someone who has been a surrogate before. This is a good way to hear about the reality of what it’s like and to figure out if it’s something you want to do. Ask her questions about her experience, what was challenging, what she liked about it, why she decided to become a surrogate in the first place. Does she have any regret? What would she do differently next time if anything?
Our team at Stork Baby would be happy to help you with any further questions you have; we can even set you up to talk to a surrogate; feel free to reach out to us, and we will help you decide if becoming a surrogate is the right step for you.
